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Preparing for Christmas

I don’t know about you but a lot goes in to preparing for Christmas. Before we left for Thanksgiving I made my annual trek out to storage and brought in the two artificial pre-lit trees, the christmas ornament organizer, and boxes and boxes of Amy’s various decorations that will soon take over the house. I also pulled out my strands of beautifully blue-hinted LED outdoor Christmas lights which are attached to a timer that automagically turns on the lights at dark and runs them for six hours. I like going to bed with the glow of Christmas coming in from the windows.
Before Jesus was born at Christmas over 2,000 years ago, his people had to get ready. God sent them the prophet Malachi who reminded them that God was going to keep His promise and one day would send His messenger to help them prepare.

“Behold, I send my messenger, and he will prepare the way before me. And the Lord whom you seek will suddenly come to his temple; and the messenger of the covenant in whom you delight, behold, he is coming, says the LORD of hosts.” (Malachi 3:1 ESV)

When Malachi writes that God’s messenger will “prepare the way” it literally means “to clear a path.” In the ancient world, a herald would often go ahead of the king and announce his coming ahead of time-so that the people might make themselves ready. Can you hear the herald? “Make way! The King is Coming!” The prophecy of a messenger heralding the coming Messiah would be fulfilled 400 years later in John the Baptist, as Mark 1:3 describes as the voice of one crying in the wilderness who would herald: ‘Prepare the way of the Lord,  make his paths straight,”

How did John the Baptist prepare the way for Jesus to come? I believe there were three ways in which John prepared the way for Christ:

1. He taught a message of repentance. When he preached he called the people to repent of their sins. If we are to ready our hearts or our homes for Christ, we must first repent of our sins.

2. He pointed people toward Christ, not himself. He could have easily been interested in building his own kingdom here, his own “ministry” or business. Though he did have his own disciples, he pointed people to the Messiah. Likewise, we can help prepare the way for Christmas by pointing people to Christ! We can make Christmas about so many other things, when He is the real reason that we celebrate.

3. He had an attitude of humility. John would so esteem Jesus that he would be quoted as saying, “the strap of whose sandals I am not worthy to untie” (Luke 3:16 ESV). The ancient practice of footwashing was performed by the lowest servant of member of the host family. John was in essence saying that he wasn’t even worthy enough to be the lowest servant of Jesus. In a world filled with arrogance, hubris, and pride, a healthy dose of humility is what sets our Savior apart. We can truly prepare for Christmas this year when we recognize that He is God and we are not. When we put Christ in the proper place in our lives–first, where He belongs, we will be ready and prepared to celebrate Christmas this year.

Though I hope that you go all-out this year, with decorations, presents, parties, and food. I hope that while you are spending the next few weeks preparing for Christmas that you will take a moment and make sure that spiritually you are ready to worship the King of kings and Lord of lords.

Where Do We Go From Here: Thoughts for the Church

I sat down this morning and wrote down some thoughts reflecting on the outcome of yesterday’s election and its ramifications for the church.
First, Whoever sits on the throne in Washington, God is still king.

In Scripture, Daniel would tell the pagan king Nebuchadnezzar, ”the Most High is ruler over the kingdom of men, and He gives it to anyone He wants” (Daniel 4:25). The Psalmist writes, ”The Lord has established His throne in heaven, and His kingdom rules over all” Psalm 103:19. Handel chose Psalm 2 for a section of his Messiah, ”Why do the nations rebel and the peoples plot in vain? The kings of the earth take their stand, and the rulers conspire together against the Lord and His Anointed One: “Let us tear off their chains and free ourselves from their restraints.” The One enthroned in heaven laughs; the Lord ridicules them. Then He speaks to them in His anger and terrifies them in His wrath” (Psalm 2:1-5).

These passages and the message of Scripture teaches us that God is ultimately in control, even of pagan kings and empires.

Second, don’t let your disappointment turn to bitterness or bigotry.

No matter how we voted, we have a responsibility as Christians to pray for our President; 1 Timothy 2:1-4. When Paul wrote these words he meant the Roman Emperor, probably Nero-one cannot get much more reprobate than that. If we’re not careful we become bitter and begin to blame those who do not see things as we do; why should it surprise us that the Lost act like Lost people? Once we allow bitterness to take root, then bigotry is not far behind. Bigotry is when we blame someone of a different race or culture for our own problems. There is no room in God’s kingdom for racism.

But how did we get here? How did we elect someone to the highest office of the land that is so staunchly against God?Just as Romans 1 teaches that “God delivered them over to a worthless mind” as a nation we have forsaken God and He is allowing us the leader that we have asked for.

“And because they did not think it worthwhile to acknowledge God, God delivered them over to a worthless mind to do what is morally wrong. . .Although they know full well God’s just sentence–that those who practice such things deserve to die–they not only do them, but even applaud others who practice them.” Romans 1:28, 32

So Where Do We Go From Here?

One thing this election has showed us is that we no longer live in a Christian nation or even a Christian culture. Because of this we must be prepared as a church for greater persecution and the limiting of our religious freedom. We must learn to be as bold as Daniel took a strong stand for the Lord and prayed openly in Babylon. We must pray for our President and our leadership. We must pray for revival. Our hope is not political, but spiritual.

We must build a solid foundation from God’s Word – knowing what we believe and why.

“Always be ready to give a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you.” 1 Peter 3:15. Most Christians don’t know what they believe or why. As we are now living in a culture that is starkly different, we are going to have to be able to defend why we believe that abortion is murder and that marriage is between a man and a woman.

We must teach our children God’s truth

4 “Listen, Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is One. d 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 6 These words that I am giving you today are to be in your heart. 7 Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Bind them as a sign on your hand and let them be a symbol on your forehead. j 9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:4-9

We must do better planting churches in the cities, in the Northeast, and the West.

America used to be a rural country, we were a country of pioneers and farmers; we have shifted now to the cities. Many conservative churches abandoned the urban areas to the liberal mainline denominations and moved out to the suburbs. We must move back to the cities. In Camden, SC, we live in an area where there is 1 SBC church for every 800 residents. In some of the cities that need the gospel Miami = 1 SBC church >; 9,087 residents, Cleveland = 1 SBC church >; 42,500 residents, and New York = 1 SBC church >; 59,760 residents.

This election showed us that we must learn how to do multi-cultural ministry right here at home. If you were here for the trunk or treat, over 80% of our treaters were not members of our church, but more importantly, they reflected our community. Our church does not look like our community! We are going to have to reach across cultures in order to fulfill the Great Commission and survive as a church.

At the end of the day, God is in control. Let us rest in His sovereignty and focus on the mission until He comes back!

Audio: Where Do We Go From Here?

Linked: Post-Election Rundown

Before I share my own thoughts tonight, I thought I would share some recommended reading from around the web concerning the election:

Aftermath: Lessons from the 2012 Election by Dr. Al Mohler, President of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary

The Briefing (Audio) by Al Mohler

The Loyal Opposition by Denny Burke, Professor of Biblical Studies, Boyce College

The People Have Spoken — What Should Christians Do Now by Ed Stetzer, VP LifeWay Research

Electoral post-mortem: Where do we go from here? by Matt Privett

Christians, Let’s Honor the President, by Dr. Russ Moore, Southern Baptist Theological Seminary

Postscript of a Presidential Election by Thom Rainer, President, Lifeway

25 Million Self-Described “Evangelicals” Voted for Obama, Why & What Else Do The Exit Polls Tell Us About How Christians Voted? by Joel Rosenberg

Historic Camden Revolutionary War Reenactment


I love history.

I sometimes think I was born in the wrong century, except I would miss my technology in about 5 minutes. We moved to Camden, SC, a little over 6 months ago, and since that time I’ve taken Eden and Caroline to the Historic Camden village about a half a dozen times. Today I was that Dad. Yes, I took my two little girls to see a revolutionary battle reenactment. We had “the talk” beforehand. I explained that it was going to be loud, that there were going to be guns and cannons, but they weren’t shooting real bullets. I told them that the soldiers were just going to pretend to be dead. In spite of it all, we went anyway. We went because they are fascinated with Historic Camden and how people used to live. We went because I love history and right now my girls love it too. We went because our nation is free because real men and women gave their very lives. When I stood out on that field and watched men dressed up as soldiers pretending to battle, I was reminded that we are in a real battle and we won’t just get up and walk off the field when this battle is over.

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12

I’m thankful to live in this country where men died that I might live free over 200 years later. I’m more thankful, however, that Christ died 2000 years ago and won the ultimate victory.

 

My Thoughts Following the Kershaw Baptist Association’s Fall Meeting

I attended my first bi-annual meeting of the Kershaw Baptist Association yesterday. The KBA includes 51 baptist churches in Kershaw County, South Carolina, that partner together for missions locally and globally. I love it when churches work together as I’m a firm believer that we can go farther and make a greater impact when we are unified than when we try to do things alone.

The Good:

  • Our Missions Committee presented an update on the partnership that we currently have in Peru, helping to reach unreached Urarina tribes along the Rio Tigrillo, a branch of the Amazon. We sent teams from several churches during the month of September who saw around 170 come to faith in Christ, including from one village that previously had no Christians. There is another trip planned into this same area in January. This is an amazing example of doing something together that we could not do alone. It also shows the strength of churches adopting a people group and investing together over a period of time. This, by far, is what excites me most about being part of the Kershaw Baptist Association.

The transition:

  • Just a few weeks before our meeting our Director of Missions, Jimmy Hanf announced his resignation. Jimmy shared that he is transitioning to a ministry role that will allow him to travel to Peru more frequently and engage more churches in international missions. This is really his heartbeat when you talk with Jimmy. As he transitions January 1st into this new role, my prayer is that God will allow him to make an even greater impact.
  • This transition also means that as an association we will be transitioning to a time without a called leader. Hopefully at some point the Missions Committee will recommend the hiring of an interim Director of Missions. My hope is that they will be able to find someone who can come in and help us come together as an association and specifically refine our purpose.

The Not So Good:

  • Baptists in general can get divisive when it comes to budgets. My e-mail has been filling up leading up to this meeting with words of impending financial cuts coming to the association’s 2013 budget. The budget that was presented and approved included cuts to payroll for the first time. Thankfully, the meeting did not turn ugly, but it did get a little bit tense. The association overwhelmingly approved a budget that more closely followed the funding from the churches.
  • In some ways the local Baptist association is losing ground. While impending conflict usually means more Baptists show up for these meetings, there were few in attendance. According to the giving report, for 2012 there were churches that did not financially support the association. I could have counted on one hand the number of people in the room under 65. Added all together, I believe that unless something changes, the budget cuts and dwindling support and participation are the future of associational life.

The Way Forward

  • Baptists have formed associations for centuries. As time marches onward our associations are facing financial realities which are going to force them to redefine their vision and purpose. Just as the state convention is restructuring, the association will follow. Here in SC our state convention is going to move to a 4 day work-week beginning January 1st. At the same time that we are downsizing the denominational structures we should be maximizing and upsizing our commitment to reaching the darkness with the gospel.
  • I’m currently serving on the Constitution and Bylaws Committee for the association. While we are going through a process of modernizing our organizational document I’m reminded that fixing this document is not going to fix the problems with our association. My experience has been that when we trust each other, no one really cares about the constitution. It sits on a dusty shelf somewhere. Whenever trust breaks apart, when unity turns to strife, when we beat our plowshares back into swords, the constitution is one of those things that is dug up and sharpened for battle. My prayer is that over the next year we can work toward restoring our trust and focusing on that which binds us together – the Lord, who has called us on mission.

It would be a lot easier if we operated in an episcopal form of church government where decisions were made from the top-down. As a free-church tradition, we have the freedom to make the decisions for ourselves how best to do ministry. The struggle with our form of government is that means it is sometimes messy. I’m happy having to strap on my boots and gloves sometimes and wade through the mess, because in the end it is worth it. The question we must ask ourselves, is “is this a hill on which to die?” There is really only one hill worth dying on and that is for the One who gave His life for mine.

Running the Race

This weekend marked the beginning of the Summer Olympic Games held in London, England. Amy and I stayed up to watch the opening ceremonies and have caught some of the coverage so far. We have cheered on the athletes and teams from the United States, sometimes sitting on the edge of our seats. While we watched with bated breath the swim heats, we looked over and our girls were pretending to swim laps across the sofa-going for the gold! It’s amazing to watch the intensity and the level of competition among all the various sporting events. What we don’t see are the hours and hours of dedication and practice to even have the chance to compete on such a high level.

I came across this quote in a book by John Maxwell called The 5 Levels of Leadership: “Nobody achieves anything great by giving the minimum. No teams win championships without making sacrifices and giving their best.”

This is so true when it comes to our Christian lives, and our life as a church. The author of Hebrews would write, “Therefore, since we also have such a large cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us lay aside every weight and the sin that so easily ensnares us. Let us run with endurance the race that lies before us, keeping our eyes on Jesus, the source and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that lay before Him endured a cross and despised the shame and has sat down at the right hand of God’s throne” (Hebrews 12:1-2, HCSB).

We will never grow in our Christian faith by giving the minimum required. We will never grow in our marriages and relationships by giving just enough. We will never grow and take the next steps as a church by simply showing up every once in a while.

1.      We must deal seriously with our sin

In this passage we are challenged to throw aside “every weight and the sin that so easily ensnares us.” What we don’t realize many times is that the Enemy is a liar. He attempts to tempt us with sins that may seem to satisfy for a moment, but in reality cannot deliver what they promise. In fact, sin is counter-productive because Satan’s desire is not to make you happy, it is to steal, kill, and destroy you. Christian, sin is slowing you down and holding you back. Let’s deal seriously with sin. Let’s confess it, turn from it (and not back to it!). Once we confess our sins, Christ has promised to “forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9, HCSB).

2.      We must run with endurance

You honestly do not want to see me run. It is an ugly sight. I’m really happy each time I go out to make it back alive. I’ve encountered everything from wild poodles to unchained pit bulls. I never seem to come up on these rabid animals when I start out-it’s usually once I’m quite winded and don’t have much to offer in terms of speed. Many times in our Christian life we run back to the house just as soon as things get hard or we start to get out of breath. Any good runner will tell you that you have to get over that hump, because once you do it actually does start to get easier. I hope you’re ready to make the sacrifices necessary to take your family and our church family to the next level. It’s not going to happen if we simply sit on the sidelines-we must get into the race!

3.      We must keep our focus on Christ

He is the author and perfecter of our faith. He is the beginning and the end. Sometimes when you’re running it helps to focus on a particular spot ahead in the road. If you can focus on that spot then you can run there. Sometimes you have to push out anything else that may be in your field of vision in order for you to focus on your goal. When we start to get tired, when we start to face conflict or doubts-let’s remember something. Christ suffered and endured the cross on Calvary. He suffered and bled and died so that you and I might live. With His strength and help there is nothing that we cannot overcome in this life or the next. One really cool thing that happens when we keep our focus on Christ is that all the little things sort of just fade away. When we are intensely focused on knowing Christ and making Him known, then the things that trip up most Christians and churches don’t seem all that important-because 99% of the time they aren’t!

As we look forward to a new church year and a new school year, let’s make a commitment not to simply give the minimum. Let’s see how far we can go. Let’s run this race. Are you ready?

 

Keep Your Vow

When you start reading God’s Word be careful. It is sharper than a two-edged sword and will cut straight to the point sometimes. During my time with God this week I came across this verse:

 

“When you make a vow to God don’t delay fulfilling it, because He does not delight in fools. Fulfill what you vow.”
Ecclesiastes 5:4 (HCSB)

 

Ouch! This verse jumped right off the page when I read it. In our day of politically correct speech and platitudes, sometimes Scripture stands so stark in contrast because it speaks with such authority. If you really want to be challenged, ask yourself,  “What have I promised the Lord?” My time? My tithe? Lest I dare to tread here, my holiness?

 

We are now over halfway through 2012. Think back to January. Did you promise the Lord that this year it would be different? That this year you would spend time daily in His Word and in prayer-that this year you would be more faithful in Sunday School and worship? How have you been doing in keeping your vow?

 

Maybe you made a promise that you would do better in giving your tithe to the Lord this year. As your pastor I’m praising God that for the first time in over a year we met our budget giving goal! Were God’s people giving their tithe, there would not be a month that went by that we didn’t meet our goal. How have you been doing in keeping your vow?

 

It’s easy, however, to talk about spending time with God. It’s really easy to talk about giving. It’s really hard when we turn our attention to matters of personal holiness. While we will always battle temptation so long as we live in these fallen vessels Paul liked to call “the flesh,” we have been called to live holy lives. This means that we must strive against sin in our lives. If you have trusted Christ as your Savior, you have been redeemed and empowered by the Holy Spirit to stand. Too many times, however, we run up the white flag of defeat when it comes to sin and let the Enemy win. If you have broken a vow in regards to a matter of personal holiness, confess it, repent, and quit living in defeat.

 

The best part of this particular verse in Ecclesiastes is that we are challenged to a sense of urgency in keeping our vow to the Lord. Let’s not delay! Let’s fulfill it! Sometimes I’ve gone to the mailbox and found a dreaded bill. I’ve tricked myself before in thinking that as long as I didn’t open it that it wasn’t real. I would let it sit there on the counter. You can live in fear and defeat-but how much better is to pick it up, deal with it, and move on!

 

My father used to tell me,

 

“Say what you mean and mean what you say”

 

While that may sound like a great saying. What did he mean by that? I believe that he meant that we should not just talk a good game when it comes to our faith-but we need to back it up by our actions. When we make a commitment to the Lord we need to keep our commitments. We can do it with the Lord’s strength-may we not delay!

It’s Time to Man Up

I’m currently reading through The Masculine Mandate: God’s Calling to Men by Richard D. Phillips. One section jumped out at me in particular when he writes,

“What do men need to know about marriage? If my experience as a pastor is any guide—experience corroborated by nearly every pastor with whom I have discussed this topic—the best answer is something like this ‘Quite a bit more than they know now’” (55).

I chuckled when I read this because even though I don’t know the author personally, based on my pastoral experience I would wholeheartedly agree. Turning inward I had to admit that I need to know quite a bit more than I know now about marriage. I have to admit that in eight years of marriage I have not always been the best spiritual leader in my home. I have to admit that it is easy to settle into patterns in our marriage, more often than not just letting our marriage coast on auto-pilot.

Guys, it’s time to man-up. It’s time to take responsibility for the state of our marriages. It’s time to turn to God’s Word to find out what it means to be a Godly husband, and then to take steps to put our faith into action. Take a minute and read Genesis 2:18-25 where we find the first word on the subject.

1.       Marriage Meets our Need for Relationship (v. 18)

God makes the statement, “It is not good for man to be alone.” God models living in relationship as He eternally exists as a Trinity, the “God-head, Three-in-One.” He created us to be in relationship with Him. He also created us to be in relationship with each other, the ultimate example of that relationship being the one between a husband and wife. The social sciences confirm that we were created for relationship-that something changes and damages as person when they live in isolation from other people. I know that my wife is God’s gift to me as we share life together. The challenge here is that we must constantly be working and growing our relationship with our wives. During the dating and courtship phases of a relationship, this may have come more easily-the times where you could talk on the phone for hours or couldn’t wait to spend time together. When the pressures of work and managing the schedule of a family come in to play, this does not come as naturally and we must be intentional. In some ways, men, we can’t ever stop dating our wives.

2.       Marriage Meets Our Need for Ministry (v. 18)

The next part of verse 18 shows that God said, “I will make a helper as his complement” (HCSB). This tells us that part of the purpose of marriage is for the husband and wife to work together. God did not create your wife to wait on you hand and foot. When God placed Adam in the garden he had an expectation that he was going to have to work. Eve was created to help her husband accomplish this ministry and be a complement to him. A Godly husband is the spiritual leader of the home and should lead, allowing his wife to assist him in this task. Unfortunately, in many families, we as men have abandoned our responsibility and left the spiritual matters to our wives. One question I’ve asked men before that gets to the heart of the issue, “If your wife didn’t get up and come to church on Sunday, would you?”

3.       Marriage Is Created By God (v. 22)

I know this may go without saying, but in our culture it cannot be assumed. Marriage is not created or defined by the government. It is not defined by our culture. It is not established by whatever we feel marriage should be. Marriage is created by God. In verse 21 God creates Eve and took her and “brought her to the man.” Marriage is actually the first institution created by God. Marriage actually comes before government. Since marriage is created and established by God, its purposes and benefits are derived from Him alone. Because of this we stand in contrast to our culture and government and say that marriage is between one man and one woman. Because God created marriage, when I have the privilege of officiating weddings I never say “by the power invested in my by the State of South Carolina.” It is not by the power of the state that you are getting married, it is by the power of God! So who should we look to when it comes to growing in our marriage? A pagan and godless government and culture or the King of the universe who created, set apart, and instituted marriage?

4.       Marriage involves Healthy Separation (v. 24)

The Bible says that “this is why a man leaves his father and mother.” When you marry your wife you have to leave your parents. That does not mean that you dishonor them, but you now become the head of your own family, with the responsibility that comes with it. I struggled with this early on in my own marriage as my father was a very strong leader in our house. I carried this into our marriage in that I had to learn a new way of relating to my Dad that still honored him as my father, but also honored my new role as head of my own family. Men, this means that your first loyalty is now to your wife. In the South we have a saying, “blood is thicker than water.” How insidious when we try to apply this to marriage. Men, you must choose your “above all else” including your family. This also means, as a word to wives, the first time he doesn’t do something right that you run back to your parents. When you get married you are making the commitment to create a healthy separation.

5.       Marriage Means Sticking Together (v. 24)

The “leaving” that happens in the first part of this verse is closely associated to the “cleaving” together in the second part. The Bible teaches that when a man and wife come together they become “one flesh.” This is pictured through the physical relationship between a husband of wife which is an outward sign of the inward reality that you are no longer two-but one. This does not mean that you must walk around joined at the hip or that you lose your personality in your spouse. Part of the spice of life in our marriage is that God created Amy and I with two different personalities. We don’t give that up just because we get married. What is does mean is that we are bonded together by our common faith and commitment to each other that we are no longer two single individuals, but a marriage unit. That means when she hurts, I hurt. When I rejoice, she rejoices. That means that we are both playing for the same team and I’m her biggest cheerleader and she’s mine. I’ve seen a picture floating around Facebook of an elderly couple holding hands. They are asked the question, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” to which they reply, “We were born in a time when if something was broken we would fix it, not throw it away. . . “

Men, it’s time to man-up, to be the spiritual leaders in our homes and learn what it means to build a marriage God’s way.

Five Secrets Pastors Refuse to Tell

This is a blog post by Thom Rainer that originally appeared on his blog ThomRainer.com on June 2nd.

Aross the land, many have confided in me their hurts and secrets. I don’t think they would mind that I share these secrets with you, as long as I don’t identify them with any one pastor by name.

  1. “My marriage is struggling.” 
    Pastors are on call 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Oftentimes family meals are interrupted by a call. A planned date with a wife is put on hold because of an emergency related to a church member. Pastors’ wives sometimes wonder if their husbands are married to them or to the church. Resentment and marital fights are not uncommon.
  2. “I fear my kids will grow up hating the church.” 
    One pastor told me in tears the story of a church member criticizing the pastor’s wife to the pastor in front of his 12-year-old son. The young boy went home insisting he hated the church and never wanted to return. Children are often exposed to the dark side of church life. Pastors worry that they won’t recover.
  3. “I let a handful of critics control me.”
    These pastors wish the squeaky wheel didn’t always get oiled, but such is the reality in many churches. “If I ignore them (the critics), “ one pastor told me, “they will make life miserable for me and my family. Sometimes it’s just best to give them their way.”
  4. “I often have anger toward the supportive church members who don’t defend me to my critics.”
    “It’s not my critics who bother me personally,” the pastor shared with me. “It’s the so-called supportive members who refuse to come to my defense when I’m attacked by a critic. Going into a business meeting, one of these supporters told me how much he loved me, and how he would always have my back. Fifteen minutes later, I’m being castigated by three members who hardly ever attend church. What does my supporter do or say? Absolutely nothing. That’s what really hurts.”
  5. “I’ve thought about quitting several times.” 
    These pastors are truly called men of God. They really do love their congregations. Most of them will endure the criticisms aimed at them personally. But when supportive members really don’t support them, or when family members are hurt, many pastors think about quitting. “Only one thing has stopped me from quitting,” the pastor said. “It’s the call of God. That’s what keeps me hanging on.”